This is what generational diaspora feels like
 
 

I’ll be out of the office this month as I embark on a trip to my mother's motherland, China. While I’d love to call it my own motherland, it doesn’t quite feel like that yet.

 

The definition of "motherland" is "the country of one's birth or origin, often with an emotional or cultural connection." For me, the emotional bond isn’t as deep as I wish it were, and I often wonder if my experiences could be called diasporic, since I wasn’t born there, nor do I speak in their exact tonality, regional dialect, or use their proverbs and slang. I have a feeling this trip will give me an opportunity to explore and hopefully build that connection to my generational diaspora.

 

If someone were to ask me, "What does generational diaspora feel like?"

 

What's coming up for me is:
• It feels more like a journey when I visit than a vacation or a break.
• Even though I can speak the language, it's still considered foreign.
• Even though I want to feel connected to the people and my extended family, it still feels foreign.
Missing kinship: Is there anyone here who truly gets me?
• To be honest, there’s general anxiety with every interaction: What if I feel let down by my race? What if I don’t fully understand their tonality and intentions? Do I really know the culture if I haven’t spent time here?
• Because separation from the land is such a complex struggle: Can it even be called diaspora when I was born elsewhere?

 

Interestingly, 'motherland' can also mean a place with significant ancestral importance, even if it’s not where you were born. In that sense, I hope to find a deeper connection to my roots during this journey.

 

Glowing stars floating across a nature landscape with grass and fir trees in the evening time

Realistically, two weeks may not be enough to fully connect with deep ancestral wisdom or break generational cycles. However, I hope this trip will serve as a catalyst, helping me reflect on decolonization and immerse myself in processing aspects of my generational diaspora.

 

A creative practice I will be tapping into during my trip as someone who is processing aspects of my generational diaspora

 

I recognize that, as a child of “immigrants,” my parents didn’t relocate by choice but out of necessity. Displacement and forced migration are central to how their story unfolded. I know this will show up in my body as I engage with the spaces I visit.

 

Whenever I have the capacity to recognize an embodied generational and historical wound coming up, I will be choosing to breathe into it as a practice. This means not trying to change it and practicing curiosity about this feeling.

 

When I visit places or have conversations with extended family and locals, I’ll pause and tune into how my body feels. These sensations—whether they evoke belonging, disconnection, yearning, or unease—will be important to notice.

 

I plan to translate these sensations into intuitive sketches, abstract drawings, or simple colour fields in my journal as a form of documentation (art as therapy if you will because I know that art is healing) in the next blog post. Weaving together the past and present will help me process my feelings around belonging and displacement.

 
 
InsightLinda Lin
What are the markers of your healing?
 
 

There can be a lot of complexity in our healing process. I’ve been reflecting on the question, how do I recognize I’m healing? What are markers that I am healing? Read below for some reflections from a human who thinks about healing for a living ↓

Transcript from the images above (and a few additional points because I like giving a little extra):

There can be a lot of complexity in our healing process. I’ve been reflecting on the question, how do I recognize I’m healing? What are markers that I am healing?

Here’s a case study:

I'm highly skilled at managing crises (even when no one asks), and when I feel overwhelmed, my version of spiraling or losing control manifests as hyper-independence and trying to help others regulate—sometimes to no avail.

Markers of Healing:

  • Asking for help

  • Being less tolerant of situations or people that overwhelm me

  • Building awareness of where my disappointment and rage come from

When I'm conscious of my capacity and focus on regulating myself rather than others, I can communicate more clearly about what's bothering me and how others can support me.

Healing looks really different from person to person. Markers can feel like I’m able to release something that I was bound to or restricted by. It feels expansive, courageous, a wrecking ball and other times, subtle, uncomfortable, unfamiliar, and awkward in our bodies. 

Here are a few maybe more obvious, yet challenging, signs of healing:

  • Differentiating between your present adult self and the past self who experienced those events, recognizing that what happened is no longer happening to you.

  • Recognizing trauma responses for what they are instead of internalizing them as shame or disconnecting from your body and your experiences.

  • Having a clearer point of reference for safety, security, and trust in relationships. You start to understand what these things look and feel like.

  • Accepting that you don’t always have to be right, perfect, or efficient. “Good enough” becomes an option, and rather than striving to be the best, you choose to relax more often.

  • When you no longer feel the urge to mentally craft a resignation letter every time you walk into work, and you’re actively using your extended health benefits to support your wellness.

And a few maybe less obvious signs of healing:

  • Noticing the contradictions of thoughts that sound like internalized messages of professionalism, perfectionism, or ableism. They are probably there to try to make sure you feel accepted by others. They are protector parts and are not needed as much when you are healing creatively.

  • Similar to the one above, you are making space to nurture the protective parts that have developed when you were wounding. For example instead of trying to let go/get rid of comparing your body with others, you notice that your worries of whether you can fit in and are accepted comes from internalized messages from generations of diet culture, sizeism, and patriarchy you are still struggling with. If these systems are STILL THERE, these thoughts will STILL EXIST.

  • Learning from the points above, you are noticing that if you are wanting single solutions for single issues, it doesn’t work. 

  • In relationships, instead of usual avoidant responses in your relationships, you might start experimenting with other types of responses, then see yourself shifting how you respond altogether. These changes don’t always look like healing, but your voice becomes clearer, and you have a growing awareness of different perspectives and more space to reflect.

  • You are no longer needing to heal your grief and wounds. That movement and growth in healing doesn’t always look like ‘recovery’ or getting to a new destination at all. Sometimes it looks more like awareness, understanding/forgivingness/holding space, grieving, weaving in and out and playing with familiar patterns with non-familiar ones. 

  • You are recognizing when we are dysregulated, it isn’t about the present moment, and the goal isn't just to calm your nervous system. It’s about finding relief and reclaiming your sense of agency and power. It's about rediscovering who you truly are: deserving, capable, and powerful.

  • You are choosing to experience and embody joy, creativity, connection as a way to liberate ourselves from the dumpster fire of this world.

TLDR;

How can we recognize markers of healing? (some main elements)

…when you’re able to claim your sense of agency and power

…when you can see more perspectives, a slow expansion from tunnel vision

…when you can differentiate what is present from an emotional flashback from the past

…healing can look like shifting from self-protection to self-awareness and a non-linear view on healing altogether

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Linda Lin
Healing with Cuteness: A New Activism Approach
 
 

Maybe you can tell by now that 'dreamy nostalgia' is a core element of our therapy practice's identity. Lately, I've been exploring playfulness and cuteness not just as a look or an aesthetic, but as forms of resistance, rebellion, love, and radicalism.

 

Below are some reflections I put together!

The power of cute has not been explored enough.

In my search, I found it to be so odd that most articles that researched on cuteness were critiques of cuteness: infantilization, magical thinking, fetishization, being in denial as an adult, or packaged as simpler times.

Note: to be fair, I only searched the internet in the english language...

When I think about cuteness, it aligns with the most resilient parts of my current adult self and the purest parts of the younger versions of myself.

Cuteness is a point where I get to come closer to my personal interests without shame and embarrassment, liberating parts of me without oppressive restrictions like age-limit, how to dress or act or what’s appropriate or legit/professional.

Here are 4 thoughts on cuteness as resistance that can light us up:

  1. cuteness as camoflauge:

when talking about serious topics like historical trauma, racism, or transphobia...

cuteness aids in politicizing conversations and reflections in a digestable, resonating and nostalgic way.

Cuteness helps us critique, question, reflect how we've been socialized, while mixing in elements of play.

2. cuteness is kitsch:

Kitsch is a German word for ‘worthless trashy art’, critiquing the quality of the art

Cuteness is our mark on decolonizing what art can be instead of art ‘should be’. It challenges the traditional ‘fine’ arts, dismantle and unarm systemic rules.

Cuteness helps folks tap in the power of making ‘bad art’.

Who knew that a sense of playfulness and absurdity can help realign my creative practice for pleasure and expression as a fundamental human right.

3. in postmodernism:

Cuteness helps me dream of a reality that makes sense.

Because a world that’s a dumpster fire isn’t cute and not going to cut it.

It helps me sustain optimism and conduct small acts of resistance through orienting to the playful parts of life and imagination.

4. Cuteness as relief

Cuteness charges our energy in the realm of healing.

Cuteness inspires us to connect with the softness, gentleness, kindness, loveliness which embodies safe moments so we don’t disconnect from the heaviness of everyday struggles.

It's probably why corporate workers love cute animal videos and memes to get through the day.

Resources that inspired my research:

Cute affectivism: radical uses of the cuteness affect among activists and artists by Ingeborg Hasselgren

• @umeboi's tiktoks and reflections on kitsch in contemporary art and cuteness

 
 
The 3 Levels of Consciousness
 
 

Instead of accepting the status quo, the intergenerational trauma and oppression that society normalizes, you are more interested in what we need to change, and ways to break the cycle.


You have probably been developing and fine-tuning your critical awareness.

When we find ourselves questioning everything around us and don’t take anything at face value, we begin to see where change is needed.


“Knowing who I am informs what I want to change.”

 

When we embrace our identities and declare our positionality, it adds depth, richness and meaning to everything we do.
 

Knowing yourself is arguably the first step it took for me to build critical awareness.

So what is critical awareness/consciousness?

As we are navigating in this dystopian world, our levels of consciousness can shift in and out as responses to overwhelm. Paul Freire's (1973) work outlined 3 levels of consciousness

 

Level 1 Magical consciousness: a stage where we are silent, docile and in denial. We accept injustices because it is the way of the world and we believe that it is our destiny or fate. 
Level 2 Naïve consciousness: we are aware of the problems that face us but we merely act on the symptoms of these problems. We perceive others are to blame for personal and social problems.
Level 3 Critical consciousness: we question the world around us and examine the root and structural causes of the issues that face us rather than accepting this is simply what has been dealt to us and beyond our power to change.

Here's a hot take…

I am convinced that we have all been in magical consciousness at some point or another!

 

Whether it's about climate change, racism, ableism, stigma or divisiveness around gender orientations, social classes, types of education… we live under multiply oppressive systems and I am pretty sure we experience these 3 levels of consciousness all the time.

 

You probably have a loved one, or friend group or acquaintances who do not perceive our actions as capable of changing conditions… and, I want to remind you that hope isn’t an emotion or optimism, hope is a discipline (as quoted by Mariame Kaba).

If you are dreaming of better and brighter futures for yourself and us all on a certain area, what informs you of this hope for liberation?

Why would this be showing up for you so strongly?

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Perhaps there is a soul wound…

Soul wound: 

the psycho-spiritual damage peoples suffer from historical trauma, intergenerational trauma and colonization. Another interpretation I found of the 'soul wound' is the moral injury that pierces a person's identity, sense of morality, and relationship to society.

Here are some ways to sustain our soul:
 

Soul care is caring for each other. When the soul or culture of certain groups are oppressed, we need to find each other who are radicalizing from the wounding so we can liberate from such oppression in small communities at a time.


Tending to our bodyminds. For example, healthy ways to release rage if you have been feeling this could be to seek community, bring in movement and singing (activates our vagus nerve), or join creative workshops. Choosing to support our bodyminds are small and mighty ways to live authentically, so we have room to take care of each other.

 

Community and belonging. We navigate repression effectively in community. Hope in our ability to get through hardships together makes us resilient and powerful. As Decipher is approaching year 4 as a therapy practice, I have been brainstorming ways to foster more third space elements: spaces outside of work and home that bring a sense of belonging, collaboration and community.

 

Committing to lifelong learning. It is incredibly humbling when critical consciousness builds within us: when it continues to witness, call out, and awaken parts of us that have been laying dormant due to internalized -isms from living in an oppressive world.

 

If you are needing to play, rest and fuel your creative spirit to continue showing up for collective liberation, I am collaborating with my friend, Monica from Level V Bakery to bring you 4 workshops this Summer! Save your spot in the link below and share with your friends 🫶